Owning Your Edge

Owning Your Edge

Hey, bro. Sup, sis? Welcome back to yet another installment of Meg's Inner Thoughts! I actually conducted a poll on my Instagram story to see what ya'll wanted to read about this week and the results are in!

If you'd like to be included in polls like this, follow my Instagram account and exercise your right to vote!

In other news, I want to share with you today an incredible and empowering tool that I learned in the pageant world but continue to use in virtually every aspect of my life. That tool (if the title hasn't given it away yet) is learning how to embrace your edge.

My favorite phase of pageant competition wasn't always interview like it very much is today. I used to walk in the room and awkwardly introduce myself to the judges, form answers as questions if I was unsure of my stance on an issue, and double back on my words if a judge questioned me or prompted me to elaborate. At 19 years old, a fledgling in the Miss America Organization, I had no idea what I was doing. As I've grown, gained more experience, and learned the ins and outs of the pageant experience, the biggest piece of advice that I can give to any aspiring crownhead, young professional, college or job applicant, and so on is to find your edge and own it.

Sounds kind of elusive, I know. How does one "find their edge?" "What's an edge?"

Let me give you an example. WAIT NO. Let's see if you can guess what my edge might be...

Clue #1: Let me jog your memory of this unique headline.


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Clue #2: This bold statement made without reservation.

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Clue #3: Just for good measure, a young Meg being dramatic for the camera. A total goof ball.

So have you figured it out? I won't make you work too hard for it.

My edge is my will to be unapologetically myself regardless of the perceptions and judgements of others.

I didn't always consider this an edge. I've lived my whole life with people thinking I'm a weirdo. I've also lived my whole life thinking, "yep. I'm a weirdo, for sure."

What I realized was, that often times, the world is surprised by people who are candid at all times, who speak their truth without hesitancy, and who stand out simply because they don't know how to blend in. 

The bottom line is, I started winning Overall Interview awards when I stopped trying to deliver the correct answers to the questions and started delivering my answers. I no longer dull my quirky nuances to the point where I sound like a robot in interviews, not only for pageants but for anything!

I figured out that my edge, my strength, is my unique ability to relate to people with a heart full of compassion and my commitment to not holding back for anyone.

So now it's your turn.

What's your edge? Seriously. Have you figured it out yet? What are the main themes that you notice when you get feedback from others around you? What do you do really well? What makes you different?

And I'm not talking about getting a piercing in your high school bathroom at 16 edgy...


I'm talking about the attributes you have that can be developed into true superpowers.

FRIEND! Please do not forget this next part!

Courage, confidence, and independence are skills that you have to learn to use!

I promise you. No one is born with the ability to market themselves to a world that looovveess to point out every. little. imperfect. thing. Even that girl that you follow on Instagram who's highlight reel is beaming with south coast sun glow and brand deals up the wazoo. Someone had to teach her how to utilize her agency as a human being just like the rest of us to get her to where she is today.

One of the toughest issues we face within the pressures of social media is that people are much quicker to teach us how to feel wrong, shameful, broken, and how we're not where/what/who we should be.

Make the commitment to yourself to find your edge and exercise it like crazy. You have the means to hone your superpower and you'll always have ya girl Meg in your corner to support you and offer any candid advice you may seek.

Find your edge. Own it. 

xx Meg

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